01-30-2004, 04:09 PM
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| I need help with a girl... Listen. There is this girl in my gym class that I really like. I'm scared to let her know that I like her. I don't even know her. Anyway, how can I get her to be my girlfriend? Thanx! 
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01-30-2004, 04:11 PM
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| There's co-ed gym now? Wow. In the meantime, go over to the thread "How do you get a girlfriend?" for the board's collective wisdom on the subject.
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01-30-2004, 04:18 PM
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| She's just a girl. She doesn't even know how she got there. Buy her something.......
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01-30-2004, 05:09 PM
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| Definitely get to know her better first. Theres nothing creepier to us girls than when a guy who you dont even know is infatuated with you. Once you get past that, then you can worry about dating her. |
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01-30-2004, 05:38 PM
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| Quote: Originally posted by jeff There's co-ed gym now? Wow. In the meantime, go over to the thread "How do you get a girlfriend?" for the board's collective wisdom on the subject. | Gym's been co-ed for years. |
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01-30-2004, 05:39 PM
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| also don't appear to like her a lot, just start with being a casual friend, then you can move on from there. . .
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01-30-2004, 05:43 PM
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| Quote: Originally posted by Tigerlily86 Definitely get to know her better first. Theres nothing creepier to us girls than when a guy who you dont even know is infatuated with you. Once you get past that, then you can worry about dating her. | Lol yea, that’s so true! Get to know her first.. don’t just ask her out. Talk to her about.. whatever your into. Don’t just stare at her though.. make a effort to talk to her. I hate when you know a guy likes you, but he wont talk to you! And if you try talking to him, he is either rude, or wont talk back. Lol, do what you feel best.
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01-30-2004, 05:48 PM
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| Here's how I did it in jr. high school:
When she's around, don't talk to her. Just pretend she doesn't exist. Eventually, she'll notice, and get curious about you. She'll see that you're distant, and probably very interesting inside. When she starts dating someone else (they all do), it's because she knows you're out of her league. Meanwhile, write lots of poems.
So, I didn't have much luck in jr. high school. The sad truth is that you have to talk to her every now and then. Luckily, you don't have to have epic talks -- just a "hi" here and there, a question, or a compliment+question ("you run fast! are you on the team?"). After a while, these talks get longer. By college, I'd figured out that talking works better than ignoring, for me. |
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01-30-2004, 05:49 PM
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| I'm personally a fan of the old sabre-ist method... just walk up, hit her over the head with a blunt object (pommels are lovely) and then drag her back to the cave by her hair.
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01-30-2004, 05:49 PM
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| hey give us guys a break! Thankfully I talk to anyone, because my goal in life is to get people to laugh and I'm not afraid to look a little stupid to do it, but many guys are afraid of looking stupid!
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01-30-2004, 05:52 PM
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| Lol, ok ok.. most fencing guys arent bad, but there are a lot of guys who give girls the "deer in the headlights" look when they like her.. hehe ^_^
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01-30-2004, 05:52 PM
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| It's very simple. Go up to her. Say "Hi, I'm Flames." Allow her to introduce herself. Then ask her if she wants to go out for coffee on Friday night.
A few notes:
1. Use your real name, not Flames. Unless Flames is your real name, in which case I suggest you make up a name that sounds more real, like "Henry."
2. Coffee can be replaced by an activity that you enjoy, or feel more comfortable with.
3. Friday can be replaced by a day that is more convenient to you, but it should just be the name of the day. Don't make the date more than a week away. |
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01-30-2004, 05:58 PM
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| Quote: Originally posted by The0ne hey give us guys a break! Thankfully I talk to anyone, because my goal in life is to get people to laugh and I'm not afraid to look a little stupid to do it, but many guys are afraid of looking stupid! | I agree!! My best romantic moments (and a few of the worst) were when I thought, "Who cares how pathetic I look? Not meeee!!" and just went for it. I once asked a girl for a date the next night -- she said she was busy. The night after that? She got out her (empty) calendar scheduler, and said she had something. Day after that? After that? Finally, I got a date 6 nights away. I think she liked how I was begging. She was worth it. We were together for a year after that.
When you're rejected, those are the breaks. That's life. If you're rejected early, before she knows you, she's not rejecting you, just her idea of you. It doesn't help you with the girl, but at least you don't have to get depressed.
Oh -- and if you're hanging out, and she starts a pillow fight: You're minutes away from making out. |
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01-30-2004, 07:05 PM
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| Quote: Originally posted by Soldier Gym's been co-ed for years. | It's many years since I've been in gym class!
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01-30-2004, 07:18 PM
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| I have always used my eyes to get girlfriends. First make eye contact with her. Once you have, slighty smile at her. She should smile back. Then casually walk up to her. And talk to her. And the whole time just keep your eyes locked on hers. This is the process I go through everytime. And it always works. Good luck dude.
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01-30-2004, 09:01 PM
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| Um...Guys Maybe for you, its that easy, but for me its hard. I mean, I can't just go up to someone I don't even know and make eye contact or talk to her. Its just not that easy.....
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01-30-2004, 09:48 PM
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| Quote: Originally posted by Soldier Gym's been co-ed for years. | WELL SOME OF US OLDER GENTLEMEN HAVENT BEEN IN GYM FOR YEARS!
hehe well i know exactly how you feel try asking her friends about her, if she knows you exsist, etc. worked for me thats how i met my wife! (yes im that old i have a wife too!)
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01-30-2004, 11:07 PM
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| Quote: Originally posted by Magmalin Lol, ok ok.. most fencing guys arent bad, but there are a lot of guys who give girls the "deer in the headlights" look when they like her.. hehe ^_^ | Wow, I'm starting to get this strange feeling that everyone is talking about me.  |
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01-30-2004, 11:09 PM
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#19 | | Senior Member
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| Re: I need help with a girl... Quote: Originally posted by Flames Listen. There is this girl in my gym class that I really like. I'm scared to let her know that I like her. I don't even know her. Anyway, how can I get her to be my girlfriend? Thanx! | Sing her a love song at the top of your lungs....It's gotta work! |
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01-31-2004, 04:02 AM
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| Re: Um...Guys Quote: Originally posted by Flames Maybe for you, its that easy, but for me its hard. I mean, I can't just go up to someone I don't even know and make eye contact or talk to her. Its just not that easy..... | Of course it's not easy, if it were everybody would have a girlfriend/wife/significant other. It takes practice to build up your confidence and the only way that happens is by failing and learning... Ask your friends to talk to her friends. If they won't, then you're gonna have to screw up the courage to fail. If you can't accept the risk of failure, how can you accept the risk of success? You have to value yourself no matter what anyone else thinks. Easy to say, more than a little difficult to do, I know. I couldn't screw up the nerve to really talk to a girl until AFTER I had joined the military.
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