01-31-2004, 05:33 AM
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#21 | | Fencing Expert
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| Re: Um...Guys
Quote: Originally posted by Flames
Maybe for you, its that easy, but for me its hard. I mean, I can't just go up to someone I don't even know and make eye contact or talk to her. Its just not that easy..... | Gojujay put it rather nicely in the previous post. I'll put it in a more succinct, understandble way.
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01-31-2004, 09:22 AM
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#22 | | Senior Member
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| Get down on your knees and BEG!!! BEG !!!
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But seriously, it's all good advice, practice on someone you don't actually wanna go out with for practise  hopefully it won't backfire....
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01-31-2004, 11:35 AM
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#23 | | Senior Member
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| Quote: Originally posted by wflaschka
Here's how I did it in jr. high school:
When she's around, don't talk to her. Just pretend she doesn't exist. Eventually, she'll notice, and get curious about you. She'll see that you're distant, and probably very interesting inside. | I'm sure guys don't like torture and confusing signals. Girls don't either. If you like her, make it obvious. Please don't ignore her. Girls are often intimidated too, and some don't have the guts to go after a guy because they aren't sure. If you gave her the signal, she shouldn't be the one to confirm that you like her. Signal first, talk after...all by the same person. Maybe it'll change when you get older and the counterpart has more experience.
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01-31-2004, 12:29 PM
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#24 | | Fencing Expert
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| Shucks, Squall -- That whole paragraph was a joke. And the next paragraph begins: "So, I didn't have much luck in jr. high school."
You see it too often -- a guy likes a girl, so he pretends she doesn't matter to him. How is the girl, for goodness' sake, supposed to notice that one guy among the hundreds of guys she doesn't matter to? It doesn't happen. The girl will never notice you think she's special.
Like I said in the post, the sad truth is that you have to communicate with the girl. A simple, "Hi! Nice jacket!" as you pass her is all you need to get a girl thinking; she'll be marrying you in her mind before you reach the end of the hall (it's the same for guys).
If you're bad at communicating -- get good at something (like fencing) and communicate with girls there, in your comfort zone. Either that, or force yourself to take an acting class -- it will force you to be outgoing.
In the end, you have to man up. Get on the team, step up to the plate, and start swinging at balls. Start talking to girls, and getting shot down. It will start happening regardless, whether you do it consciously or not, it's just part of the path to maturity. A sort of shell forms around your ego, the older you get. This will all sort itself out, someday -- not that that helps you now!
(Disclaimer: IANAGM. I am not a girl magnet. Plus, I'm married. I'm just sayin', it gets easier over time.)
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01-31-2004, 12:35 PM
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| wflaschka ahmen,
if you dont grow a set and ask her out you'll never know
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01-31-2004, 04:25 PM
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| Quote: Originally posted by wflaschka
In the end, you have to man up. Get on the team, step up to the plate, and start swinging at balls. | Swinging at proverbial balls. Not swinging your balls. Very important distinction there. | |
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01-31-2004, 04:35 PM
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| LOL. Yeah, it reads wrong. Man up. Join the team, grab a big wooden rod, step up to the pelvic-shaped home base, and start swinging for that home run! Or at least 3rd base! Not. | |
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01-31-2004, 07:57 PM
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Maybe for you, its that easy, but for me its hard. I mean, I can't just go up to someone I don't even know and make eye contact or talk to her. Its just not that easy.....
| Thats not you talking. Its fear of being turned down. Girls dont like a man that lacks confidence in himself. As everyone else has stated. Be a man and talk to her
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02-01-2004, 11:43 AM
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| The main thing is to find things you have in common and talk to her. Sports is always a safe subject because youre both bound to have a favorite sport, and even if it isnt the same sport, you can have a friendly debate about which is better. Unless of course she has no interest in sports at all. Ive just always found it easier to talk to guys about sports than anything else. Maybe Im just weird. | |
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02-01-2004, 01:40 PM
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| No your not weird. Thats a good point. Sports are good conversations pieces. But I would stay clear of debates. Those are practicly rattlesnake dens.
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02-01-2004, 02:04 PM
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| Not so much a debate, i just couldnt think of another way to say it. something like "hockey is the best sport ever" "no football is" "football!? no way!" (insert flirty giggles where necessary) | |
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02-01-2004, 04:55 PM
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| Out of curiousity, did we ever find out what happened to cowpaste?
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02-01-2004, 07:53 PM
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| Quote: Originally posted by Army Fencer
Out of curiousity, did we ever find out what happened to cowpaste? | From what I heard he tried some of the more brilliant suggestions in the How To Getta GURL thread and hit on an undercover cop.
He was remanded without bail and is waiting for trial.
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02-03-2004, 03:40 PM
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| he deserves it that sick little freak 
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02-04-2004, 01:48 AM
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#35 | | Senior Member
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| Re: I need help with a girl...
Quote: Originally posted by Flames
Listen. There is this girl in my gym class that I really like. I'm scared to let her know that I like her. I don't even know her. Anyway, how can I get her to be my girlfriend? Thanx! | Hmmm...You guys are in gym together huh? Well have you ever heard of Jean Claude Van Damme?
Jump in front of her and turn around as fast as you can and go into the splits, Then turn your head around and look back at her, smile and say hi. | |
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02-04-2004, 04:07 AM
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| go do some flunges infront of her | |
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02-04-2004, 12:09 PM
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| Quote: Originally posted by Mo
From what I heard he tried some of the more brilliant suggestions in the How To Getta GURL thread and hit on an undercover cop.
He was remanded without bail and is waiting for trial. | 
Yikes.
Mo, you know all the dirty secrets!
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02-04-2004, 03:52 PM
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| Kalivor's advice is good. Get chatting - easy as you obviously have sthg in common! Then ask her for a coffee or sthg. As long as you are polite, genuine and don't feed her a cheesy line she may still say no but she will be nice about it. So no need to fear rejection so much as I can categorically state as a genuine full-time girl, that if a guy is nice about it we never think he is a freak for asking us out - we are flattered and usually apologise if we decline.
In the interests of honesty as I don't know either of you, so there's obviously no point me trying to judge whether she'll say yes or no. What I'm trying to say is, if you are genuine, polite and non-arrogant you have nothing to fear. Girls LIKE being asked out. We HATE game players.
And if she says yes, you go out and it goes well, follow my top tip for all men - call/email/text her SOON. Leave it five days and we just agonise that you don't really like us after all or that the date was disastrous, we looked fat, you were just trying to pull our friend, you asked us out out of pity... It's quite normal - we like to feel liked, appreciated.
You go for it!
*big kiss for luck*
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02-04-2004, 07:15 PM
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| Quote: Originally posted by The0ne
also don't appear to like her a lot, just start with being a casual friend, then you can move on from there. . . | Haha, or convince her friends that you hate her. Irresistible. | |
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02-04-2004, 07:56 PM
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