how to get a decent boyfriend

[arcon]

No, Im not looking for a boyfriend but ive decided that the opposite sex needs their own thread on this subject.

We can expand it a little and include what it takes to get a good husband.

Anyway, Ladies, women,girls......what does it take for you to get
a good boyfriend or husband? What do you expect this gentleman
to have in the way of personality and character?

Ok guys, listen up! and learn something.

[Wizardly]

Are you asking what is a decent boyfriend? Or are you asking what women do to get decent men? Or are you asking men what it is a woman can do to get them? I'm confused.

[C.J.]

Here is a picture of the Annual Meeting of single, good looking, straight, emotionally-stable, financially-secure, intelligent men looking for a long-term commitment.

http://www.funny--pictures.com/pictu...al_meeting.jpg

[cowpaste]

Girls will say they want one thing, but they really want another thing. Do not trust their lies!

[Peach]

I married the guy who liked me for myself, didn't try to change me, was honest, and was kind. Nearly 28 years ago, and I still love him. cowpaste, honey, I can't help getting the impression that the reason you don't have a girlfriend is you don't like girls.

[fencing teen]

hey there,

Dont make any presumptions. What makes you think that girls want "good,decent" boyfriends....

We want hairy monsters with bad morality.....yeah, they're the best

[D+F+P=Hadouken!]

Are you telling the truth fencing teen? If so, I see what I've been doing wrong.

[fencing teen]

of course monsieur...... what did you think... they realy and truly are the best....

[arcon]

Wizardly, i guess im asking all of those questions. Just answer or comment with the end result being what you expect out of a male if he is to have your respect and undivided attention. That will be enough.

[cowpaste]

Originally posted by Peach
I married the guy who liked me for myself, didn't try to change me, was honest, and was kind. Nearly 28 years ago, and I still love him. cowpaste, honey, I can't help getting the impression that the reason you don't have a girlfriend is you don't like girls.

You misunderstand me. I love girls. However, I also hate them. I despise their powers. I want to hurt them as they have hurt me. I will get my revenge. It will come into play a few months hence....

[D+F+P=Hadouken!]

Seriously, do you girls really like the slimy jerks? I can't get a girl even when I am a jerk, or when I am so nice.

[The0ne]

the wink in fencing teen's second post means sarcasm. . .

[cowpaste]

Originally posted by D+F+P=Hadouken!
Seriously, do you girls really like the slimy jerks? I can't get a girl even when I am a jerk, or when I am so nice.

Girls do not jerks, but they like the confidence and wildness that jerks possess.

[jusplainfencing]

they like the confidence and wildness that jerks possess.

yup very true....but....they got to be able to charm the parents into thinking that he's the perfect little angel with the best manners...thats what i look for anyway...you can't have one without the other

[Soldier]

Originally posted by cowpaste
You misunderstand me. I love girls. However, I also hate them. I despise their powers. I want to hurt them as they have hurt me. I will get my revenge. It will come into play a few months hence....

Dude, drop the revenge, seriously. Yeah, girls possess supernatural powers of manipulation, and the ability to see straight through your chest to where your heart is, then rip it out, and yes, it does suck.

There are two things you can try to do to feel better. You could get revenge, but that can be an iffy thing. You have to make sure if you're getting revenge it's on the girl who hurt you in the first place, and that you do really and truly hate her. Any other girl, or if you don't completely hate her, you'll fail. Because, see, your revenge will start to work. As a result, she'll be hurt. And then she'll get that "hurt girl" look, or (worse yet) start to cry. In any case, you lose. If you don't completely loathe her with every fiber in your being, you will break and want to to anything you can for her to feel better. It's just a plain fact that when they're crying, you lose.



On the other hand, you could find some simple way to get over the initial pain (fencing works wonders, boxing is a close second, loud rock music helps a lot, too), then move on. Repeat as many times as necessary until you find that one girl who doesn't rip your heart out, but rather hands you hers.

And that will make it all so completely worth it.

[Soldier]

Originally posted by cowpaste
Girls do not like jerks, but they like the confidence and wildness that jerks possess.

I've found a good mix is to be able to just go crazy at random times, doing the weirdest random stuff you can think of, while remaining at all other times the perfect gentleman (with, naturally, a sense of humor). Wearing a suit helps, first because it looks good, and second, because it puts most people in a more subdued, proper state of mind (meeting the parents, etc.). Then change into just comfortable clothes to go absolutely crazy.

I had a New Year's party one time where they started calling me Gollum, because I spent hours scurrying around the basement in a crouch, randomly jumping on people, and just generally doing funky stuff. It was a lot of fun, too.

[Iwant2bafencer]

Alright, Stop, Back the Trolley up. You guys are making it sound like all women are manipulative, heart stealing, users.
*ding* Wrong!

Honestly, must we generalize about everything? Oh this chick broke my heart, so now I hate all women. Now really let's be rational here.

Me personally I have never been in a relationship. I admit my standards could be a little high especially for now a days.

I like a guy to be honest, respectfull, and caring. Everything else pretty much falls under those. (funny, nice, etc etc)

[Nusy]

I can just repeat the others. He should like me for myself. Don't want me to change!!! 'Cause I won't!

[Kodiak Kid]

If a woman's mind were like the sand on a beach, I would say that I've managed to collect 3 or 4 grains that I can identify.

1) they want honesty. This is a big one. Don't make light of it.
2) they want romance. This is a big one. Make the extra effort.
3) they want security. This is a big one. Call her, you jerk! Tell her you are thinking about her. It'll serve you well in the future.

Additional thoughts. Charm her parents first if you think you want to get serious. They like that and it will also serve you well in the future. Be nice to her friends, but not TOO nice...

I'm digressing from the thread....
Let's see...

Oh yeah, they want a guy to remember stuff. Anniversary dates, (The first meeting, the first kiss, the first rent payment... Write stuff like that down so you can remember it later)


I think most "normal and well adjusted" women (whatever one of those looks like) like their man to be considerate of thier feelings and not to feel excluded from any facet of their man's life. I don't personally think that is healthy but that's what [I]they[I/] seem to think. So make 'em think that.

Arcon, how come you are getting so many responses from males and so few from the fairer sex? Maybe they have a more difficult time putting their concepts of want and need into a text format? Or maybe, as I often suspect, it's a moving target based on unknowable factors that themselves change from moment to moment.

Viva la Difference` !!!

[Lady Cristina]

One reason for a lack of response could be because to divulge that information is may feel like breaking a code. A lot of women want their guy to read her mind. But here are some things on my list of look fors:

1)Honest-this is the most important, I have to be able to trust hime
2)Romance-he has to be able to create what I think is romantic by listening to me when I seemingly "ramble". Very important men a woman never rambles to a man without a purpose.
3)Security-I have to be strong in the work place and everywhere else in the world to earn respect, when I am with my significant other I want to be the meek damsel in distress.

Those are the three big things. Also when women appear to be "playing mind games" they are probably trying to tell you something, like you don't spend enough time with me or your not meeting my top three ideals of a boyfriend. Guys don't seem to apprecitate it when women tell them they are wrong or aren't measuring up, so women try to tell them without telling them. Women tend to use the same psychology on men that they do on children. Example: If you tell a child he/she can't do something because you say so they will only try harder to find a way to do it, however, if you suggest that it would be hard and strenuous then he/she will decide not to do it thinking it was their idea completely. Like wise if you tell a man he is insensitive, inattentive, or not up to par he gets defensive. If however you get him to realize that he hasn't be being the best boyfriend he will come up with some way to make it up to the girl and he'll be proud that he thought of it himeself. Therefore, it is in a woman's best intrest to "play mind games" with men. But that's just my two sense.