Advise Needed also- really

[Dragonfly]

I haven't asked for advice in a while. What do you think? I am going crazy trying to regain control. I have moved back 'home' and I am still unemployed. It's been 8 months - I still fence maybe 2x per week - I am slowly dying and going broke. I won't give up fencing. I have searched everywhere for a job. When I can't fence I go running, but sometimes I can't due to the weather. I am considering drastic moves again, I am thinking of moving or is this too drastic? should I ....

1. Stay in place and keep searching

2. Move before it gets to be too much and I waste too much time
[a friend offered me space in Brooklyn, is there fencing in Brooklyn?]

3. stage a coup d'etat and storm the Bastille?

4. eat raman for the next several weeks and hope something pans out.

5. find a fool and get married? I don't think I could do this one.

6. Have a one woman show and try to sell some of my paintings?


You people actually know me the best, I'll try to be good and listen to the advise. If I don't get any, then I'll just impale myself on an epee; but I refuse to give anyone my foils, or my epees, that is out of the question!

[The0ne]

Go for the Bastille!!!!

[Capt. Slo-mo]

D'Fly:

Think about were you live. Is the economy good there (or at least no worse than other parts of the country)? Do you have better or worse job prospects there than in other regions?

Are there any overriding economic/psychological benefits from being back "home"?

If not, then an economic migration might make sense. Meanwhile, one of the guys at our club had a one person show, and did actually sell some artwork...so if your stuff is marketable, go for it!

[Dragonfly]

Dear All:

I almost went for the Bastille, but with only two other insane followers, we don't stand chance!

I thought about what you said, okay, no, there are no overwheming reasons to stay, it is completely different from what it was in '92, none of my friends are here, some of them died, it's unreal and downtown is completely different.

I gave two paintings to a friend, she loves them, I'll have think of somthing. Okay, I have the paint, the pastels, the pressboard, I'll start and see if I can't palm a few off at one of the galleries, I don't know, I've never sold a painting, I threw away a couple of good ones - I do this thing where I paint something perfect then I ruin it ten seconds later.

[insert "insane" emoticon]
Best to all,
Good-bye
bless you all

[MyrddinsPrecint]

if fencing's that important, make a list of everywhere that has a club somewhere near. look at the economy/job opportunities in each area.

at the same time, paint more, look for a job where you are, eat raman, and look for someone to live with (romantically inclined relationship or not).

this doesn't call for a "do one thing and fix it" kind of thing, it calls for a "do everything at once" approach

[Dragonfly]

Precient< YOU:"RE OUTTA YOUR MIND" I can't believe it, but your heart is in the right place and you meant it, or you never would have wrote it.


Female foilist/epeeist with 2 bedroom apartment, courtyard with swimming pool in a somewhat rural neighborhood, but with some running, no job market and lots of fencing, SEEKS roommate who won't get in the way, is clean and can fence in the backyard. Non smoker, non-drinker. I'll post something on the board in the managers office.

But I want to thank you again, for the responses, out of 106 views, 3 people actually responded, which means three out of 106 are fencers and the rest bite it.

[I went for a run and met several fundamentalists who frowned angrily at my shorts!]

[Craig]

Tempted to not reply simply because of the "bite it" remark.

Maybe some people don't have a good answer for you. Perhaps some don't feel qualified. Deciding to not respond is not a reason to tell someone that they "bite it".

That said:

What are your priorities? If eating and having shelter outweigh fencing, then find a job elsewhere.

You also have to consider where your network is for job contacts. You want to have some good leads before you go through the expense of moving.

Craig

[npkeith]

Dragonfly-
What do you do for a living? What are your skills? (beyond painting and poking people with bits of steel)

Sometimes taking a step back and looking in other fields where they do something similar to your training can help.

Or, you could go into nursing (there is a huge nursing shortage right now. If you already have a bachelors, there is a program at Pace in Pleasantville, NY that can get you a second bachelors in nursing and eligibility to take the nursing boards in 1 year - Thats where I got my BSN)

[Kodiak Kid]

Chomp!

Chomp!

I advise you to beware of who you take advice from.

[Kodiak Kid]

...and why isn't this in the watercooler?

[CarlKnoch]

And Poof..... it is in the water cooler.

I would have to say that I'm in the group that Craig labelled as: Not Qualified.

Besides that, I don't know anything about you, or your situation beyond what you've put in this thread. What you've shared here is in no way enough for anyone else to give you any kind of rational and reasonable advice in my opinion.

More info from you, and I'm sure that some could speak out with ideas.

So give more info, and maybe the help will start falling into place for you!

I hope it does, and I hope that you can accept the advice that is sound, even if you don't like it.
CK

[Soldier]

I'm sure there's work to be had. May not pay so well, may not be glamorous or the least bit enjoyable, but some burger-flippin' place must be hiring near you.

[Dragonfly]

what are my skills: type70wpm; most all software in the universe; BS and MS in Home Ec/24 hours in other classwork.

I signed up with Kelly services and Brooke Services, for temporary work, other than that my apps our out there. Just have to be patient and see what happens.


IMHO, I think you are all quaified. We're in the world together and we live on the same planet surviving, qualifed. You don't need a rating to tell me that I should work in xyz.

I had the creepiest interview the other day though where some woman already had someone temping at reception and interviewed three or four of us in her presence, and she was sort of sneery to us, then we all left and then she said she decided to hire her temp, which was great, it was just that she was sort of creepy about it.

Thanks again, MP, Kodiak, et al, you sorta saved me.

[Ramrod]

Temp agencies are a good start. Be willing to do anything to bring in some money and maintain the habit working. Keep looking for the job you really want while you are working at the job your have.

Relocating may be necessary. Different parts of the country have better job prospects than others. Check Monster.com and other online job posting sites outside your area to see where employers are looking to hire.

[Dragonfly]

i've been working on these things, you're right about the work habit, once you've been away from the workforce it's more difficult to resume 9-5 schedule. It seems really weird to be away from work for so long, I've worked almost always since high school, I really can't imagine not working, I've always felt more productive when working. Let's hope and see what happens.

Biting my nails!
[it's a good thing I don't have a temper!]

[lfortier]

As a teen who is too young to work, I know how tight money can be when fencing is your sport. What you could do is explain your dilemma to the coach and ask if you could be an assistant coach or help out at your fencing club in exchange for free or reduced cost lessons. It might work; Hope everything works out for you

[Dragonfly]

you are very sweet, fotier the Teen, but my fencing fees are already paid, fencing is very cheap where I live, as stated before, I live to fence, and fence to live. Therefore, ergo; my fees come before meals. [summer fees for three months were $50. and for the fall will be about the same for each semester, it's very inexpensive. and I'll just take a formal lesson whenever possible].
I do appreciate all you encouragement, thanks again. There's really nothing anyone can do, but the encouragement is important to me. thanks again all, and especiallyl for a teenager to take time out to offer an idea is very good.