The 516,649 post thread

[DavidX]

My man on the inside found out she's 35. I still can't believe it, she looks 22 at the oldest...

wait what

who are we talking about?

[thetortfeasor]

My man on the inside found out she's 35. I still can't believe it, she looks 22 at the oldest...

Did SHE actually say she was in her twenties? Because if not, then you shouldn't hold it against her if she never lied to you.

People always think I'm younger than I am. The other day, I had someone ask me what high school I was attending. I said 'none, because finished high school several years ago.' lol

sidenote: this is when facebook creeping comes in handy. Most people put their birthday on there.

[JackOfHearts]

Did SHE actually say she was in her twenties? Because if not, then you shouldn't hold it against her if she never lied to you.

I don't think he's "holding it against her" as much as lamenting the age difference. For some people, that can be a deal breaker, and honestly, there really isn't anything wrong with not wanting to date someone when there's over a decade of difference between.

Although yea, facebook is pretty handy for these things.

[Nolano]

I don't think he's "holding it against her" as much as lamenting the age difference. For some people, that can be a deal breaker, and honestly, there really isn't anything wrong with not wanting to date someone when there's over a decade of difference between.

Although yea, facebook is pretty handy for these things.

Myes, Jack is right. It's not like I'm holding it against her. Just... damn. I still almost don't believe it.


And it's hard to facebook stalk someone when you don't have their last name.

[JackOfHearts]

And it's hard to facebook stalk someone when you don't have their last name.

Dude, if you have a first name and a general idea of where they live, it's not too difficult to find someone. At least as far as my experience.

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What?!

[Empty Wallet]

I am waiting for Fencergrl to come and give some sort of cougar talk....


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[thetortfeasor]

Dude, if you have a first name and a general idea of where they live, it's not too difficult to find someone. At least as far as my experience.

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What?!

Or a first name and the name(s) of mutual friends, haha.


And, I guess I misread, because I read it as you were bothered that she didn't tell you her age. But, yeah, I agree... when someone's a lot older than you that can totally be a deal breaker.

[JackOfHearts]

Or a first name and the name(s) of mutual friends, haha.


And, I guess I misread, because I read it as you were bothered that she didn't tell you her age. But, yeah, I agree... when someone's a lot older than you that can totally be a deal breaker.

Happy 600th post!

[thetortfeasor]

thanks.

[Nolano]

Dude, if you have a first name and a general idea of where they live, it's not too difficult to find someone. At least as far as my experience.

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What?!

Trust me, I tried. She might not have one, I don't know(amazingly people like that still exist).

Annddd yeah. 16 years, pretty big age difference.

[thetortfeasor]

Trust me, I tried. She might not have one, I don't know(amazingly people like that still exist).

Annddd yeah. 16 years, pretty big age difference.

Yeah, 16 years is pretty big. I don't think I've ever gone past seven.

[KidLazy]

when someone's a lot older than you that can totally be a deal breaker.

it is a deal breaker only if you are shallow.

[larkascending]

I only get one lesson this week

[JackOfHearts]

it is a deal breaker only if you are shallow.

Or can't get past the generation gap. Think about it. They grew up with different movies, were exposed to different kinds of media, and grew up in different generations where different world views took the stage. Granted, the differences can sometimes be not only refreshing, but useful for keeping interest. But for the most part, it can be jarring.
I think this is well illustrated with the emergence of new media. Pulps are for weirdos. Comic books would turn your kids into delinquents. D&D is for devil worshiping satanists. Video games should only be for kids. The older generation often has trouble accepting an emerging mindset and the media it brings along with it.
And everyone is shallow. To a point at least. Where that is can vary between individuals.

[thetortfeasor]

it is a deal breaker only if you are shallow.

Not at all.

Not wanting to date someone that's closer to your parents' age than yours isn't shallow. It can be hard to connect with people much older than you. Like Jack said, there's a generational gap that's hard to overcome under most circumstances.

[KidLazy]

Yes, it is shallow, very shallow, the shallowest of all shallowness.

As soon as you found out his/her true age and you started to doubt and don't like him/her anymore, but for what reason? He/she is still the SAME person from 1 second ago that you liked/loved sooooo much; did he/she kill someone? changed gender? grow a extra arm? had 180 become totally selfish? NO. Has he/she changed at all from 1 second ago? NO. He/she still has all that qualities that you like/love, because he/she did not change in this 1 second AT ALL. The only thing that has changed is YOU. You changed and now 1 second later you don't like him/her anymore, for what? A emperical number?

One Mercury year is about 0.241 Earth year, which means one Earth year is about 4.15 Mercury years. Let's say we colonized Mercury, and someone was born on Mercury, then after 108 years... he/she is only 26 EARTH years old. Does this number matter to his/her qualities as a person? NO.

Dump someone poor to marry someone rich, or dump someone ugly (outside) for someone pretty (outside), things like these are considered univerisally as shallow. However, at least there is some gain from it (more money, etc.) which can be reason, shallow but still reason. What gain do you get from dump someone over a number? Nothing. Thus, it is the shallowest of all shallow reasons.

If there is a communication issue, then the communication issue should be the reason. If there is a biological issue, then the biological issue should be the reason. If there is an emotional issue, then the emotional issue should be the reason. To simply blame how much Earth goes around the Sun is a utterly irresponsible thing to do; it is a behavior of a shallow person.

[JackOfHearts]

Wow. Alright then.

It's not as though this is a committed relationship we're talking about. Two people can meet, have a good time, and there can still be one detail or two that turns one or both off. Shallow? Perhaps, though hardly something to make a federal case over.
Age may be just a number to you, but as I've pointed out in the above, there are a lot of factors that can affect a relationship due to those years of experience. It IS a quantifiable difference, regardless of what planet you're on. Maybe that doesn't affect your personal choices. Fine. More power to you. But it's not really something to condemn others for.
The fact of the matter is, between the two of them, nothing has changed except perception. That happens when you get to know someone, and that is why we take the chance in the first place. To explore the possibilities. See them in a different light. What that reveals can be a deal breaker on either side, for whatever reason. And that choice is a personal one, to which no one should have to explain to anyone.

[thetortfeasor]

KidLazy, feel free to date people your grandparents' age, and I'll gladly wear the shallow title because I don't want to do that.

[Nolano]

Actually I might not have a problem with it. but I think it might not have happened even without the age gap, and I think the age gap makes it less likely.
I didn't say I don't like her anymore, either. That's actually why it bothers me so damned much.

[pokey]

It's been forever so I just wanted to pop in to say hello!

Hi.

That's all.