parents just don't understand

[space_cadet]

Two words, Bummer Dude.

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Cadet à Space

[Mergs]

Here's my advice, but remember, it's worth what you paid for it.

I understand how you feel (I chose to forego a hernia operation because it meant that I'd be out of fencing for 6 weeks)(eventually had it after I was back home; fencing was the only thing keeping me sane!)(but I digress), but being a parent I can also see their point.

So where does this leave us? Well, let's see, would you allow sub-par performance in your fencing if something else (like a girl/boyfriend) was taking time away from your most important endeavour? Doesn't sound like it.

Therefore, if you want to fence, I would say that you need to suck it up and get the grades up and get through this. Remember, life ain't fair, but you can increase the odds by playing by the rules. And your parents are the ones making the rules. ergo....

It's like a kidney stone. This too shall pass, but it'll hurt like hell in the process!

You're right, Space, but your advice only works if fencing is really harming his grades. And judging from his grades, which are A's and B's, I really don't think fencing is hurting them, just that his parents are picky. At this point stopping fencing would hurt him (Not even once a week, when his training is really important, and with a great coach??? What a waste of an opportunity.) a lot more than it would benefit him.

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I AM FENCING GOD! Wait. You're atheist? D'oh.

[fencingfoolfour]

thank you screaming girl...you are teh only one who sees the situation from my point of view.


-also many of u said that i should sit down my parents and coach...but that woulsd be awkward.....all three of them speak with accents

[MHS Fencer]

The situation here, for those of you who don't seem understand it, (at least as I interpret it, correct me if I'm wrong fool) is that his parents are cracking down on fencing, even though he does it at a time where it does not affect school work. Face it, nobody wakes up on a Saturday morning and says, "I think I'll do my homework now." The only place where the sort of proposed bargains would work would be with the Wednesday nights, but as I see it the problem is with the crack down on Saturdays, which cannot have a direct impact on school work. Also, one additional note, parents don't tend to listen to fencing coaches (my experience) just because they only care about your fencing, and not the rest of your life, (unless you're lucky) perhaps if you were to find somebody else to discuss fencing and grades with them it would work, perhaps a club mate that they already trust.

Good luck with your fencing, I'm sure I'll run into you one of these days, that is if I haven't already without knowing it. Again, i wish you good luck with resolving the situation.

-Ian

[Fencing Angel]

Originally posted by mango fever:
Bring a TEXT BOOK with you to your salle.

thanks to mango for pointing this out... i know 5 or 6 people that do this. one girl has even finished her report there and still had time to fence...yes school is important but so is fencing. mental training is one thing to point out to your parents. but never give up.

[saberkid]

my parents try to take fencig away from me(mostly because its an hour there and an hour back) so, i try to keep my grades up, i also use the excuse that i work (wich i do) there, and so im oblagated to them that i will be there at a sertan time to do work for them, thats what usaly works for me.
i think the biggest problem i have is going to turnaments; they wont give me any finacial help, what so ever, so thats my biggest problem, though it has shown me how fast money can disapear, i had that expereince at JO's this year, travel hotell, food, registration, stuff like that, making the money to go to those is the really hard part, especily since im guna be doing the international circut next year, that means i gota buy all FIE and then gota find more work, till i get my CCNA and MCSE certs, well i guess what im complaining about is, this $hit is expensive!

Chris

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