Crushed!

[PeacockRose Goddess]

There can't be a lower, low then this. Tell me my fellow board members, Has fencing helped you in way's other then physical? I got pretty crushed to day by my Ex. And I took into consideration what he said. " You used to be a fighter, now you just lay back and let people attack you." After an hour of yelling I felt he was right. I though perhaps in my fencing I can take this ,Uh ... criticism to a different level. I still haven't been able to start fencing yet. Blasted hart!!! But when I go get in the "ring" I want to be able to fight again, to rekindle the passion I once had. I want to show my self I CAN fight, and mabey with the discipline of the sword. I might be able to help my self from , well my self. I want to fight again and to fight not only with brute but with emotional battles as well. so I guess in my question, Had this sport helped you in ways so you could cope with the world around you?
Thanks, mabey this is some odd reference to growing up... I hate being so young... but got to start some were,
well chi's take care, love ye tons!
Kawaii-chibi-pikaku <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="frown.gif" />

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[shyHeidi]

What's up with all the pikachu stuff?
Anyway, it definitely helps me. I go seriously nuts when I'm not fencing for awhile. As you were talking about mental strength, I'd say it helps a lot in that area as well, or maybe it only helps certain people, but I'm one of those scared little meek people who hides in a corner under a table at family gatherings, you know? Fencing's made me feel stronger, and because of that I don't get intimidated over nothing quite as easily as I did before... I'm still not even to normal standards yet, but a big improvement I'd say. I'm probably not a very good person to be answering this, because I'm a rather extreme case I think.
But anyhow, yes, it helps.

[Zelda]

OOOH yeah. Fencing is my "most men are bastards lets do them in" release. In my profession I have and will have to deal with dim people (generally beauracrats), fencing gives me the patience to smile sweetly and nod, while simmering inside.

[Mergs]

Well, it's OK to get mad. Take that energy and get on strip and fence like a maniac. When fencing in Dallas (oh so MANY moons ago), they could tell when I had the misfortune of talking to my ex the previous evening by the fencing bag flying across the floor when I came in! Total exhaustion is a good thing to clear the mind. Is actually part of the treatment for clinical depression. Anyway, I digress. Two recommendations. Get mad and fence. And quit talking to your ex. Haven't talked to mine in 5 years and its amazing how much calmer I am! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="wink.gif" />

[3ngu4rd]

What he said was a little harsh, but try not to think about it as critisism. Think of it more as an inspiration to be better. He obviously knows you can be better, so do it and be better.

[D'Artagnan1673]

Mergs hit it on the button. Come up fighting! don't let depression bring you down. The worst thing that you can do right now is give up on fencing over your situation. Life is full of such situations and we must strive to overcome them. I find that a good night of fencing will do me wonders.

[three_hundred_fifty_five]

How old are you?

[D'Artagnan1673]

21

[Kodiak Kid]

Ah, PRG. The benefits of fencing in my efforts to conquor the world is exhaustive:
Mental acuity, Posture, Vocabulary, Teaching, Coaching, being able to "size people up" after watching them move, Negotiating skills, planning skills, analyzing skills.
When I encounter a difficult social or work situation, I do try to put myself in the "on the strip" mindset. Handle the situation with honor, dignity, respect and if possible, humor. It's important for me to win, most of the time, as long as I don't sacrifice the aforementioned qualities. Sometimes humor gets neglected in the interest of a winning outcome but it's so much sweeter if it's in the mix.
-Rambling is now concluded.

[MikeHarm]

What you're doing isn't useless at the higher levels of fencing when you learn countertime you use good footwork and invitations and body feints to convince your opponent to reach for you and then pick them up and hit them. Not concerning yourself so much with being as agressive but developing your skill at the parries so you can pick them up will help your game to develop and teach you to turn your opponents aggressiveness against themself later on.

[counter riposte]

Anyone can discourage you if they say the wrong thing at the wrong moment. That same quote may motivate you at the right moment. Occasionally, it will be something worth fighting for. Sometimes, you just have to roll with the punches for a while, knowing that it will eventually get better. Other times, it may just be best to walk. That is a decision best left up to you.

As far as fencing goes, I have no idea which weapon you are fencing. Foil is primarily a defensive game, filled with feights, second intentions and involves plenty of strategy, where defense is the key. Epee is primarily a distance game, where both offense and defense are important aspects to gain a touch over your opponent while avoiding a double touch. Sabre (My Weapon) is primarily offense, where offensive actions most likely get touches over defensive ones.

That having been said, if your boyfriend wants to have more offensive action, tell him to convert to the darkside of sabre, where he will be clobbered over the head a couple of times. (That'll learn 'im)

I assume since you are a beginner, that foil is most likely your primary weapon. Please do correct me if I am wrong. If so, then you are actually doing what you are supposed to be doing, allowing your opponent to close out the distance and skewer himself upon your parry-riposte. In which case it is simply a matter of fencing time. If you are worried about becoming more agressive on the strip, challenge him to a 15 point duel where the loser must be the winner's slave for a week. Then conjure up everything he has done wrong to you. Then kill him. Literally. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="wink.gif" /> That would certainly motivate me.

Let us know how the bout goes, and if that fails, pay attention to my signature line and I agree with Mergs and MikeHarm. You can turn your opponents agressions against them if you can parry-riposte.

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[three_hundred_fifty_five]

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Helvetica, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Helvetica, Arial">Originally posted by D'Artagnan1673:
<strong>21</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Helvetica, Arial">Not you.

How old is PeacockRose Goddess?

[PeacockRose Goddess]

Shyheidi, My peacock name comes from when i was on IB profin treatment. I was on so much i stared to see peacocks. So my friend started to call me the peacock godess, it's acutally peacock blanket goddes but i though pepole would take that ..oddly. Kawii-chibi-pikaku (cute little peacock.) came later . 3555, I'm almost 17. Also thank you all so much for your kind words , it really gave me strength! as for an up date were .. uh seize'in each other up... andi need to get a back bone and fight, lol. BUt things are calm on a cloudy day. If the strom breaks i'll give you a percipitation reading.
Love yeah all,
K.C.P
ps. if i missed any one questions just give me a buzz thanks.

[counter riposte]

Slaughter 'im

[Fencing Angel]

with this last peice of advice, i must agree heartilly.....
everyone, who doesn't know this, must learn that you really can't stress over life. it just doesn't work.

P.S. I meant his sigline..