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[Nusy]

Originally Posted by Fencergrl

... like fencing sabre!

Fencing saber is a good habit... Also I do sometimes... And I enjoy it! For a conventional weapons' fencer "bad habit" means épée...

[Zilverzmurfen]

Originally Posted by Nusy

For a conventional weapons' fencer "bad habit" means épée...

Nonono, épée means enlightment.

[jBirch]

I dunno about the too soon thing...I mean, if you're engaged, it makes the "burping and farting stage" of a relationship so much more...meaningful?

*grin*

Enjoy your new life together. It's terminal, your days of promiscuity are over and it's all down hill from here 'cause after marriage, the next sacrament is death. But there's hope: you've got good company for the ride, a warm bed to crawl into, a secret shoulder to cry on and endorsement contracts from your future Olympic Gold Medalist to sustain you in comfort into old age.

*raises a glass*

To the happy couple: May your dreams be but a pale immitation of your life.

My wife and I send our best.

James & Amy Birchall
Olds, Alberta, Canada

[I_luv_saber]

There are a lot of things you're not even beginning to touch on. Like all those bad habits the other person has that you haven't dealt with yet. When you haven't spend long amount of time in the person's company to know what they are and get used to them. Not to even mention the culture shock. West Coast American and Hungarian, there are going to be some things that you haven't thought of yet.

These are all things that have crossed my mind already, trust me. Marriage (and engagement) is not a thing I take lightly, contrary to what the situation may look like from the outside. I spent a long time thinking about it. But the question I ask myself is this: "Will any of that, affect whether or not I love her? Will any of that change my feelings for Nusy?". And I always answer the same, "No, it won't. This is someone I want to spend the rest of my life with, regardless of circumstances, quirks, disagreements, or any other obstacles.". Sure, we have our bad habits, everybody does... some we know of, some you can't know of until living together, and even married. And I'm not so naive as to believe we'll never argue or disagree... but that's the question I think is the most important, and that's the question I answer now without hesitation. Besides, all of that aside, I am a saber fencer (hehe), so I move fast .

But thank you for caring enough to offer your 2 cents and advice .

Enjoy your new life together. It's terminal, your days of promiscuity are over and it's all down hill from here 'cause after marriage, the next sacrament is death. But there's hope: you've got good company for the ride, a warm bed to crawl into, a secret shoulder to cry on and endorsement contracts from your future Olympic Gold Medalist to sustain you in comfort into old age.

*raises a glass*

To the happy couple: May your dreams be but a pale immitation of your life.

My wife and I send our best.

James & Amy Birchall
Olds, Alberta, Canada

I like that.
And thanks a lot... to everyone... those who are just happy for us, those who think we are crazy but are still happy for us, those who think we are just plain crazy, and everyone in-between.

Thanks!
-Jared

[the doc]

the guy who stated that you don't know enough about each other yet is surprisingly far from the truth. there is a psychologist called john gottman who has demonstrated that you can judge to greater than 95% accuracy whether a couple will still be together in 15 years time from just one hour of observing the couple talking to each other.

essentially, it boils down to 4 key components that are strongly detrimental to a relationship: criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling and contempt. of these contempt is by far the strongest. if you start showing or feeling contempt for each other things are on the way down sooner or later.

if you want to reab more about it, it is in malcolm gladwell's book blink. well worth reading

[Serpentile6]

To clarify, I do not wish you ill at all. In fact I hope the best for you. I would just hate to see another failed marriage a few years down the line. Most of them stemming from the fact that people did not take more than a few months of getting to kow each other. And while the book that was mentioned may provide some interesting theories they are just that: theories. So forgive me for playing devil's advocate here, but it's something that needs to be thought on long and hard. If you have I appreciate it, and respect your decision. I am just trying to utter a word of caution, before you take that plunge however far down the road it may be.

Feelings and habits change over the years be sure this is something you can deal with. Anything of this magnitude should be thought of in the sense of "Will I always like these things that I like right now? Will my tastes change as I mature" Being young and without a way to support yourself and the family you will have is a step away. Are you willing to wait years for this? Is she? Again I wish the best for both of you but heed my warning.

[I_luv_saber]

To clarify, I do not wish you ill at all. In fact I hope the best for you.

Nah, never thought you did . And I'm not dismissing your warning out of hand... I'm simply saying these are things I've thought about... and we've talked about. Just try to remember.. even though we may have only physically met not long ago... before that, we were talking just about every day for a year, and the last few months twice a day. That's more than a lot of couples talk. Not trying to sound like I'm getting defensive, because I'm not... just trying to give you a little insight to the situation. And I respect your opinion, I really do. I can't say if I were on the outside looking in, I would say any different. But that being said, I feel this is the right decision, and I stand by it. But thanks for the words, and for the hopes !

[Serpentile6]

Good, I'm glad you have thought on it. I'm even more impressed by your resolve. Best of Luck to you both!

[Nusy]

Thank you.

[D'Art]

This thread has just been brought to my attention. Um, congratulations, and I hope I'm a bit quicker to notice when you guys set the date.

[Inquartata]

And we will all be expecting our wedding invitations.

[I_luv_saber]

Originally Posted by Inquartata

And we will all be expecting our wedding invitations.

Eh, do you really want to fly to Fresno or Budapest . No reimbursments mind you, you travel at your own expense . And try to resist at "Speak now...", hehe.

[needle]

Originally Posted by I_luv_saber

Eh, do you really want to fly to Fresno or Budapest . No reimbursments mind you, you travel at your own expense . And try to resist at "Speak now...", hehe.

Just make sure the priest has an accent - who would want to say anything after "Speak now, or forever hold your piss"

[MyrddinsPrecint]

Originally Posted by needle

Just make sure the priest has an accent - who would want to say anything after "Speak now, or forever hold your piss"

actually, were that said, i would really want to speak right then...

"excuse me, do you mind if i utilize the facilities???"

[Inquartata]

Originally Posted by I_luv_saber

Eh, do you really want to fly to Fresno or Budapest . No reimbursments mind you, you travel at your own expense . And try to resist at "Speak now...", hehe.

You have only to have the wedding in conjuction with a decently strong sabre tournament, so we can justify the trip. And make sure Nusy has attractive, single bridesmaids.

Don't worry, if I object it'll be in Latin, no one will understand me except perhaps the priest if he's "old school"...

[Inquartata]

Originally Posted by needle

Just make sure the priest has an accent - who would want to say anything after "Speak now, or forever hold your piss"

They are fencers, so they ought to be able to hold their piste...

[needle]

Originally Posted by Inquartata

Don't worry, if I object it'll be in Latin

Just as long as you stick to "In vinum veritas" (or is it "in vodkum"?)

[fences_like_a_lemur]

Needle, antiquis temporibus, nati tibi similes in rupibus ventosissimis exponebantur ad necem...

Oh, and my Congratulations to you Nusy and I_luv_saber!

Oh, and Needle; braccae tuae aperiuntur.

[needle]

Originally Posted by fences_like_a_lemur

Needle, antiquis temporibus, nati tibi similes in rupibus ventosissimis exponebantur ad necem...

Oh, and my Congratulations to you Nusy and I_luv_saber!

Oh, and Needle; braccae tuae aperiuntur.

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