Premarital Sex??

[fencerontheline]

So, my friend and I are having an arguement, and I'd like to see other people's point of view, and some statistics from the fencing world.

So, what do you think of premarital sex? Is it a great thing, or the tool of the Antichrist?

Personally, I'm all for it. I would never buy a car without giving it a test drive, even if it is brand new...

My friend's name is Alex Kao

[General Sweetpants]

Oh you FOTL, and your silly, silly polls of sex! You know MY answer! I have had many virgins in my lifetime, and I must also say I am a gentle, gentle lover!

LOVE is not the tool of the Antichrist, very opposite! A pestilience upon you for even mentioning it! Oh yes, yes, and that woman that was with us the other night? Yes, she took me in a fit of passion while you were away at the 7-11! HAH! You may be suave, FOTL, but I RADIATE even more suavity!

[lindajdunn]

So, my friend and I are having an arguement, and I'd like to see other people's point of view, and some statistics from the fencing world.

So, what do you think of premarital sex? Is it a great thing, or the tool of the Antichrist?

Personally, I'm all for it. I would never buy a car without giving it a test drive, even if it is brand new...

My friend's name is Alex Kao

I'll note here that my unstated clause is: between consenting, responsible adults. Though not explicitly stated in the poll, I'm taking it as an assumption. There are (imho) people who are not biologically and/or emotinally/mentally ready for sex. [And imho, there are a rare few who are ill prepared for postmarital sex, but that's a separate problem.]

How a man (or woman) behaves during sex can tell much about their personality traits. IOW, if a guy's idea of foreplay is to shout, EN GARDE! right before thrusting without even so much as a kiss (or even a weapons check), then you might be well advised to call HALT! on that relationship.

[For some reason, I keep thinking of the Monty Python Meaning of Life bit wherein the professor and his wife are teaching the students about sex.]

[Morion]

I was 37 before I got married. That would have been a looooooooong time to wait!

[MyrddinsPrecint]

How a man (or woman) behaves during sex can tell much about their personality traits. IOW, if a guy's idea of foreplay is to shout, EN GARDE! right before thrusting without even so much as a kiss (or even a weapons check), then you might be well advised to call HALT! on that relationship.

the problem with sex is that there's probably a woman out there that that would be really good sex...........



I think that premarital sex is a good idea for some people and a bad idea for others. I think that most people have sex a little too quickly and a little too easily (in terms of when they do it for the first time, not the actual sex).

Personally, I wouldn't marry someone that I hadn't had sex with. But that's what's right for me. I make no judgements on anyone elses decision.




Although, interestingly enough, there a statistic along the lines of you're more likely to have premarital sex if you pledge to never have premarital sex. or maybe it's just that half of all teenages who pledge to not have premarital sex do......... I can look it up if anyone cares.

[Mr Epee]

Since this is a "public poll"... will it be followed up with a mysterious knock on the door at nationals?

[Maester]

I think it depends on the person

[bigdawg2121]

Since this is a "public poll"... will it be followed up with a mysterious knock on the door at nationals?

Given the responses thus far, DEST is going to be getting a LOT of knocks (not that she wouldn't have anyway necessarily), that is unless you're offering big boy?


Seriously though, pre-marital sex is bad and it isn't necessary to make me a better athlete or to make me truly competitive with other men. So there.

[Fencergrl]

What concerns me after looking at the poll results is how much I was completely fooled in thinking ZZ was a woman! Damn... I gotta get my eyes checked!

[D+F+P=Hadouken!]

Its totally bad, but thats not gonna stop me.

[Epee Scherma]

Since this is a "public poll"... will it be followed up with a mysterious knock on the door at nationals?

Afraid someone will force the removal of your chastity belt, now that we know your gender?

[jBirch]

Well, since I hold my marriage vows pretty tightly, it would suck if I had chosen to marry a woman who turned out to be really, really, really bad in bed.

James.

[Monash_Armourer]

It's not a bad thing, but pre-marital sex at/during a bachelor(ette) party, is not what I would call "in good taste".

Darcy.

PS. Does the phrasing of this hypothetical infer Post-Marital sex is a non-possibility?

[howtobrew]

I think the poll is flawed!

There are so many reasons to have or have not, that it is hard to generalize. I have wanted to have sex since oh.... probably since I was 14 or so... I don't remember exactly.... but in hindsight it's good that I couldn't/didn't. My first was in a failrly committed relationship at the age of 20 that lasted all of 3 months after the first consumation because I immediately wanted to experience other people. I am glad I wasn't any younger because it was hard enough for my girlfriend to accept that I wanted to break up at that age, it would have been worse had we been a couple years younger.

Like I said, I was ready to go at 14, but had no idea of the responsibility of sex, of the emotional understanding required between two people. As mentioned in a previous post by ??, it requires consenting adults, meaning two people who accept the consequences and responsibility of their actions with each other.

I think most of my regrets in life can be listed in two categories: Those Whom I wish I had slept with, and Those Whom I wish I Hadn't. And there is a lot more of the latter. There are several very nice girls that I hurt emotionally because we didn't have the same expectations. Of course, I have been hurt too, but that is not my point. Sex is a very powerful thing, it's just like playing with fire. I think pre-marital sex is fine, the catch is that you have to be fully aware and accepting of the responsibility. Typically this means emotional maturity and some degree of personal/financial independence. If you want to play, you have got to be able to pay.

PS. Brewers have been encouraging and profiting from asexual reproduction for the last 5000 years.

[JackOfHearts]

I have to agree with the above. Timing can be pretty critical. I've seen many of my friends make some pretty stupid mistakes when it comes to sex. Personally, I think pre-marital sex is fine. So is post marital sex. Though one should probably keep in mind what they want out of it, and what they don't want, and find a balance between the two. If you don't want a child, use birth control. If you don't want to catch something unpleasant, be careful with what you do and who you do it with. If you want to try positon number 274 in that book you ordred online, you better have the number of a good chriopractor.

[Westley]

Umm.... you mean some people wait? Silly monkeys. Don't you understand that there's an asteroid emitting radioactive death rays right now above our heads that's going to hit the ocean and send a 200 foot wave over land killing all human life as we know it? (Depending on whether or not you consider Michael Jackson life.) HAve all the sex you can in your last few moments of life and hope the water gets you before the zombies do.

[mrbiggs]

Since this is a "public poll"... will it be followed up with a mysterious knock on the door at nationals?

I can only hope.

[telkanuru]

Um, what if we believe that sex dosn't have abstract moral judgements associated with it?

Ie, I believe sex before marrage is fun, not good or bad.

[Epee Scherma]

Are animals concerned about premarital sex? No! Have sex as often as possible with as many people possible. No! Using your hand does not count! Share the love.

[Valerio Versace]

Man, I can't believe that some people still think that it's a bad thing.
40% percent of the girls who have voted in this pool so far think that premarital sex is bad.
That pretty much makes everyone who had sex before marriage was invented a bad person.
And then, I'm reading on a newspaper that yesterday a priest was arrested while he was looking for transexuals on the streets 'cause he beat up the agents who tried to stop him for a simple check and ran away. When they took him to the local police dept, he declared: "I was just looking for mature guys, not underage kids."
Some people just take stupid books as an excuse to mess up human nature in twisted ways.
I seriously think that our educational system should warn kids that the Bible is a dangerous, silly book full of perverted, malicious theories that make people grow up as brain-fu(ked, mindless robots. I think the impact on one's intelligence of the bible is worse than that of a dick going in from one's ear and coming out from the other. It should be read just like Mein Kampf to show people how stupid they can be.