Do you fence your significant other?

[WonderWoman]

How many people date other fencers and do you fence each other or are you too competetive?

[Preacher]

I did fence my girlfriend for w while. It was not a good situation. But it resolved itself in that she no longer fences. Although we enjoyed doing things together I believe this is for the better.

[noahz]

Fencing your significant other -> fun

Coaching your significant other ->

[RoninX]

I don't fence anyone that I date. My wife probably wouldn't take too kindly to that (the dating - not the fencing).

I do fence my wife, we met on our college fencing team. We both fence all three weapons. I'm not sure she has ever beaten me in epee or foil, but she has the edge in sabre, our bouts are usually close but she almost always wins.

I'm working to close that gap a bit, but I think the problem is that my sabre lame is not stinky enought yet.

[RITFencing]

Noah is dead spot on. There are a few people that can get away with it, usually because they were coach/student before dating, but for the most part, that's a whole dynamic that your relationship probably doesn't need.

[notalent]

Greetings noahz,
I learned that lesson a couple of GFs ago. When the new GF started fencing she was promptly handed over to her new coach. Fencing her is fun though.

Fencing your significant other -> fun

Coaching your significant other ->

[jBirch]

Just to echo that: I tried it and failed miserably. Then my wife tried to get me into horseback riding and equally failed miserably. We're ultra-competitive by nature so we try to find sports that we can work together at instead of against each other.

James.

[KD5MDK]

Fencing your significant other -> fun

Coaching your significant other ->

This man speaks tremendous truth. I have finally gotten to the point where I can give a piece of advice or two at the break at the 8. Sometimes.

[fencergal33]

Although noahz does speak the truth....


I actually married my coach. Very scary.

[needle]

I fence my wife all the time ... My epee against her rolling-pin.
Ukrainian wives are just deadly with rolling-pins ...

[keropie]

Back when she fenced, I did indeed fence with her. And coach her for that matter. But that was before we started dating. She stopped fencing (concentrating on trying to get into Medical School) about 6 months after we started dating.

I did fence previous girlfriends while we were dating. It was interesting, but I think it was good. If nothing else, I didn't want to have to explain why I wouldn't fence with them O.o

[seak]

I occasioanlly fence my bf but we fence different weapons, this means one of us is always fencing an off weapon when we fence each other. This is a good thing at primary weapons, I at least in my primary weapon am far to competitive for losing to my bf regularly to be a good thing.

BTW let me be the first to say this poll is flawed! We fence but off weapon for one of us at all times, otherwise we would be to competitive

[Katman]

Occasionally, I will fence her. She fences saber and I'm a foil fencer. I don't give her advice at a tournament but she gives me plenty.

[RoninX]

BTW let me be the first to say this poll is flawed! We fence but off weapon for one of us at all times, otherwise we would be to competitive

Of course it is flawed. There is only one "No" option given, with only one reason for it. That and no "this poll is flawed option either".

When will people learn!

[fencingfrog]

back when my sortof bf went to fencing, yes we would fence. but he doesn't go now, and he isnt really my bf. but this poll is a little flawed because there was no "yes but not anymore" type of choice. i don't think im the only one in this situation.

[Cerian]

When I had a girlfriend who fenced, we fenced each other. When she stopped fencing, we didn't fence each other. When we stopped dating, I suppose it didn't really matter whether or not we fenced.

[jtrsangel]

Yeah well he started off as my Coach, then ended up as my Husband. Although there have been some real interesting moments where we had to work out COMMUNICATION issues. I think it's been a good thing.

He's struggled with some injury so it's only been recently that he started to fence in open fencing, but I'm glad. He's a far better fencer than I am so the opportunity to fence him is exciting for me!! We are both pretty competitive, but not with eachother oddly enough.

I started off thinking I didn't want him around at tournaments because it breaks up my concentration. But have recently changed my mind. I went to a tournament for the first time on my own and missed him terribly, both as a coach and as my friend.

[melihop]

i used ot fence my ex boyfriend.. we broke up.. he quit fencing... lol.. really he wasn't any good and i always beat him and we always got into fights after we fenced.....

[fencingfrog]

sortof the same here. we never officially broke up because we never officially were going out, but he would always find an excuse why he lost. arg. it got really annoying.

[knave]

This man speaks tremendous truth. I have finally gotten to the point where I can give a piece of advice or two at the break at the 8. Sometimes.

I can hand the wife her water bottle at the 8.. But that's about it.

Fencing her is no problem though. I usually win at foil, she generally wins at sabre. She won't fence epee.