10-14-2005, 11:44 PM
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| The how to get a guy thread
I'm really bored, so I've decided to do a spin off of the infamous "how to get a girlfriend thread." From what i've heard, its has hard for girls as it is for guys to get boyfriends/girlfriends. Or that might just be because I go to an all girls school (where teenaged guys aren't even allowed to set foot on campus). Anyways, lets heear for best advice on how to get a boyfriend. 
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10-15-2005, 12:50 AM
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| A) Be attractive (Shallow, yes. But you all do it too.)
B) As cliche' as it sounds, any guy worth a crap loves a girl with a great personality...which makes it most valuable (if we're on a points system)
C) Sometimes guys are nervous around girls they're attracted to and don't want to make the first move, it took awhile for me to do this with my current girlfriend, so ladies...sometimes you've gotta act first.
D) www.somethingawful.com : If you like this kind of humor, you are awesome and won't be single long.
E) Eat the heart of a guy's ex girlfriend...it'll give you her courage...plus it's high in protein.
That's all I can think of at the moment.
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10-15-2005, 01:05 AM
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| Boys who fence tend to like girls who fence. And a lot of boys who don't fence like girls who fence.  So basically, we're all already ahead a few points. | |
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10-15-2005, 02:30 AM
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| It's never hard for girls to get a guy. ANY girl can get a guy no matter how ugly she is. Well, maybe not a deep, meaningful relationship, but otherwise, every girl can get a guy.
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10-15-2005, 02:39 AM
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| Be willing to have sex on the first meeting. | |
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10-15-2005, 04:53 AM
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| Most guys are always nervous when a girl shows an interest in them; they're even more nervous when they share the interest. I don't think this changes with age, it just goes through different kinds of nervousness.
Be friendly, ask him what he does or what kinds of things he likes, and don't be afraid to tell him what you do or what stuff you like. If you're interested in someone, you've got to find some sort of mechanism you can use to start talking... either career, school, hobbies, that sort of thing. Once the two of you are comfortable talking, you're 90% of the way there.
Baby steps, too - a few minutes of chatting here, a hello there to start - don't plop yourself down and expect a comfortable 4 hour introductory chat.
Too much perfume is bad and oftentimes no perfume is best of all.
Ah, I remember... it was grade 10... the world was a different place back then. We were young and foolish and both in the 10AM band class. I was lead trumpet, she was 3rd. Sitting two seats away from her, her blond hair spilling over the back of the plastic seat, static making various hairs stand up like a glorious halo, shimmering spectacularly in the light from the overhead flourescents... Tall, thin, with braces and retainers that only enhanced the beauty of her pure white teeth. I was smitten. I finally got the guts to ask her her name, and she told me... I spent the next three months praying for time to speed up so band class would get here faster, yet mortified that I'd make a fool of myself in front of her. Every band class, I was trying to gather enough courage to start a simple conversation with her, yet she seemed so aloof - it was an impossible task. It was the night of the Christmas concert - I had just started buzzing on my mouthpiece to warm up in the hall, and suddenly she was standing there right in front of me, wearing her parka covered in snow, cheeks a healthy pink from the cold. She looked at me and said those magic words that I'll never forget - "Hi <TRH>, looking forward to the concert?" Truer words had never been said, and at that exact second, a burst of adrenaline and some otherwordly force hit me, causing me to blurt "wouldyouliketogooutwithmesometime?" Immediately after saying it, the butterflies in my stomach turned to large hyperactive birds.
She looked at me for a moment and said, "Are you serious?"
The birds threatened to jump up and find their own way out as I mumbled "yeah I think so"...
A beautiful smile came upon her face, and she stepped forward and gave me a hug; something in my shoulder made a popping sound, then something in my back. She was about three inches taller than me and apparently quite a bit stronger - but no matter - at that moment, nothing could have shaken my feelings. For at least three whole seconds I melted the snow on her parka with that hug. Then she stepped back, looked me right in the eye, and said "I've been waiting for you to say something for two months now!"
Yes, that horribly awful, yet incredible feeling you get when you're smitten. It's like...
Wait a minute, what were we talking about?
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10-15-2005, 04:54 AM
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| Oh yeah - don't be afraid to actually talk to him. Especially if you like him and think he likes you.
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10-15-2005, 05:19 AM
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Originally Posted by ThatReallyHurt Oh yeah - don't be afraid to actually talk to him. Especially if you like him and think he likes you. | I want to ask you something and I would appreciate an honest answer. Are you secretly gay? | |
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10-15-2005, 10:08 AM
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| How to get a guy... ummm.... go to fencing tournements and look excited about what's going on? I don't think you even necessarily have to fence, though it helps, perhaps, if you already know some of the fencers.
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10-15-2005, 12:00 PM
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| Be hot, and be easy to flirt with. I hate girls that are totally brain dead and don't laugh or smile or anything. Most of all, talk with them. A guy may like you, but if he doesnt know you like him, he's much less likely to go for you, you have to give him hints, sometimes not so subtle. If it requires sticking your foot in his lap, then go for it.
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10-15-2005, 12:48 PM
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| It really doesn't take anything more than good conversation skills and being fairly intelligent. As long as you are fun to talk to and hang out with then the rest will either come naturally or not at all. Attractiveness is more important to some guys than to others and there's not a whole lot you can do to change how a particular person perceives you (assuming you already give an effort at looking good). After a certain age sex also becomes an issue. It is important that your views on it are similar to his.
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10-15-2005, 01:13 PM
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| oh come on!! its waaaayyyy easier for chicks..all you have to do is sit there..  guys always approach girls. basically all you have to do is NOT act standoffish and just be friendly. we don't pick and complain about every damn thing. looks is important, but as DFP says, please just talk to the guys. if you don't, then they will think you're not interested. | |
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10-15-2005, 01:16 PM
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Originally Posted by ReverseLunge I want to ask you something and I would appreciate an honest answer. Are you secretly gay? | Nope. I'm not gay and I'm not particularly secret, either.
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10-15-2005, 01:18 PM
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Originally Posted by D+F+P=Hadouken! If it requires sticking your foot in his lap, then go for it. | Best to not try that - it's perilously close to a kick in the groin. 
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10-15-2005, 02:26 PM
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Originally Posted by glowstix oh come on!! its waaaayyyy easier for chicks..all you have to do is sit there.. | Glowboy, you have no idea what you're talking about. It is not easier for us. Quote: |
guys always approach girls.
| Yes. Some girls...
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10-15-2005, 02:50 PM
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| Ooh, protip #32:
Be blue and fence epee'. 
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10-15-2005, 02:52 PM
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Originally Posted by RebelFencer Ooh, protip #32:
Be blue and fence epee'. | I forgot to add this smiley to my last sentence: 
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10-15-2005, 03:08 PM
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Originally Posted by ThatReallyHurt Most guys are always nervous when a girl shows an interest in them;....
Wait a minute, what were we talking about? | That was such a sweet yet funny story. From the other perspective, sometimes it's nearly impossible to tell if a guy likes you. One guy used to stare at me then his buddy and him would talk then go back to staring (as if I wouldn’t notice).
Being young, this made me self-conscious… does my hair look funny? Did I just smear my eye shadow? Why are these guys staring and talking about me from across the room? Even though I had a huge crush on one of them, it never occurred to me that he was interested in me…. Yeah I know it sounds obvious, but it isn’t when you’re young and insecure.
Generally, the younger the girl/ woman the more uncertain and insecure. It’s not fair that guys have to make the first move, it’s hard but uncertain, unsure girls expect it.
As women get older, they get bolder and I think the process is easier, at least for me.
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10-15-2005, 03:20 PM
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Originally Posted by glowstix oh come on!! its waaaayyyy easier for chicks..all you have to do is sit there.. guys always approach girls. basically all you have to do is NOT act standoffish and just be friendly. we don't pick and complain about every damn thing. looks is important, but as DFP says, please just talk to the guys. if you don't, then they will think you're not interested. |
If only it really were that easy! In my experience, it's not that simple.
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