The how to get a guy thread

[Rapier_wit]

Achillues: Ah, yes, I know those conversations. Unfortunately, I tend to break the mold in that respect. I'm not a typical girl, so I don't tend to give suggestions, I'll say straight out what I'm going to say. Here's a typical "food" conversation for me...
Me: Dude, stop eyeing my MRE.
Alex: What?! I was looking at a spot on the table!
Me: Uh huh, and it just happens to be right where my grilled chicken is.
Alex: *smirks* C'mon, we've been out in 90 degree weather with kevlar on. Mine got soaked!
Me: Hey, it's not my fault you fell off the rope course. And no you're not getting my magnesium pack either.
Alex: Oh come on!
*five minute pasue*
Alex: Please?
Me: No.
*another five minute pause*
Alex: Please?
Me: *passes over leftover manacotti pack* Damn you...

Latenight: Well, sure if I wanted sex, that'd be easy. But I prefer to keep my virginity for the time being. (Being a model makes for some tough abstinence)

RIT: *gasp*! By the way, what's a "rimshot"?

[achilleus]

Plus it's a bonding thing... I do it to people I feel comfortable with.... my sisters, my best friends, my husband etc...

My husband loves taking my sister and I out for dinner because it amuses him that we negotiate what we're going to share off of each other's plates and I leave his alone.

I contend it's a marking territory type of thing. Kinda like when the girls' I'm seeing want to leave their hair ties/bands/scrunichies all around my apartment or car. Just them, letting others know that this is their territory. It's sunk me once before I started to look for these innocuous marks.

It's called tagging...

[RITFencing]

RIT: *gasp*! By the way, what's a "rimshot"?

I'm only 22 years of age and you're making me feel very old. It's a thing drummers do when a comedian makes a joke, especially a corny one. Two hits of a drum and one on the cymbals. Ba-dum bsssssssh.

With all that talk of kevlar and MREs, I take you you're in the military? How much time for fencing do they leave you?

[latenight]

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Latenight: Well, sure if I wanted sex, that'd be easy. But I prefer to keep my virginity for the time being. (Being a model makes for some tough abstinence)

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Hey a lot guys would be happy with some happy groping at that age........

Come to think of it, I have no objections to happy groping, and I'm considerably older..........

[D+F+P=Hadouken!]

I contend it's a marking territory type of thing. Kinda like when the girls' I'm seeing want to leave their hair ties/bands/scrunichies all around my apartment or car. Just them, letting others know that this is their territory. It's sunk me once before I started to look for these innocuous marks.

It's called tagging...

Holy crap dude.... you're like, a jedi.

[Rapier_wit]

I'm only 22 years of age and you're making me feel very old. It's a thing drummers do when a comedian makes a joke, especially a corny one. Two hits of a drum and one on the cymbals. Ba-dum bsssssssh.

With all that talk of kevlar and MREs, I take you you're in the military? How much time for fencing do they leave you?

Tee hee! I've had so many people say that to me recently. Most of my friends in college are 21 or so and they hate me because I'm a minor. It's great.
Well, I was in an Air Force auxiliary for 3 years, Army JROTC for 2 years, and I'm in Army ROTC now. Most of my buds are in the marines. I was supposed to go to West Point, but I opted out of it. But no, I'm not active duty so I have tons of time for fencing!

Latenight: You might not have objections, but I do. Besides, it'd be completely illegal.

DFP - Use the force, Luke.

[Fencergrl]

I contend it's a marking territory type of thing. Kinda like when the girls' I'm seeing want to leave their hair ties/bands/scrunichies all around my apartment or car. Just them, letting others know that this is their territory. It's sunk me once before I started to look for these innocuous marks.

It's called tagging...

I had to really think about it because for me it isn't a territory thing. I wouldn't eat off another guy's plate, whether his partner was there or not, because I know it would be annoying. I generally don't do a lot of territory stuff.

If I was having sex with a guy who was also having sex with other women, I would be more careful about leaving stuff around. My logic being if I was having sex with him, I liked him and wouldn't want to invite grief in his life.

So yes while I may not mark territory, I would have to agree that some women do.

[RITFencing]

I had to really think about it because for me it isn't a territory thing. I wouldn't eat off another guy's plate, whether his partner was there or not, because I know it would be annoying. I generally don't do a lot of territory stuff.

If I was having sex with a guy who was also having sex with other women, I would be more careful about leaving stuff around. My logic being if I was having sex with him, I liked him and wouldn't want to invite grief in his life.

So yes while I may not mark territory, I would have to agree that some women do.

But you eat off your husband's plate, no? That's your territory. Same deal with an open relationship; you don't leave sutff around because you're not trying to mark him as your own. What if you were having a monogamous relationship with a man? Would you leave stuff around his place then?

[Fencergrl]

Latenight: You might not have objections, but I do. Besides, it'd be completely illegal.

Hon... Latenight is a flirt (and not that old). I suspect was just making a general comment that he liked groping... no worries...he doesn't chase teenaged girls (to my knowledge).

[latenight]

Latenight: You might not have objections, but I do. Besides, it'd be completely illegal.

Silly, I wasn't offering me. I meant with girls I actually know.......

[achilleus]

I had to really think about it because for me it isn't a territory thing. I wouldn't eat off another guy's plate, whether his partner was there or not, because I know it would be annoying. I generally don't do a lot of territory stuff.

That's in my experience, and with the girls I see, and the only conclusion I could come to was territory. Especially, because if I just brought an extra drink for them, they would get upset/weirded out. They just had to drink from my drink. Seems pretty common with most guys my age...

If I was having sex with a guy who was also having sex with other women, I would be more careful about leaving stuff around. My logic being if I was having sex with him, I liked him and wouldn't want to invite grief in his life.

Sensible attitude, however, most younger girls delude themselves unless the truth is right there in front of them. Which means, I can tell a girl I'm seeing other people, and she's thinking, 'Aw, he's just saying that. How he could he possibly want to see anyone other than me? I'll just leave my scrunchie on his shifter that way next time I'm in his car, I'll have one on hand.'

Edit: True story, she left a scrunchie on the shifter of my car that I didn't notice until the next night, the new girl wondered why I had a scrunchie in my car. My immediate response was, 'It's my sisters', didn't fly. I never fell for that one again...

[Rapier_wit]

Oh I know, I was trying to be humourous back, but my lame attempt at humour strikes again!

So sex topics and territory-marking aside, how does one snag a worthy equal?

[RITFencing]

So sex topics and territory-marking aside, how does one snag a worthy equal?

Snares work well, as do nets and even a lasso if you can throw it correctly.

[Fencergrl]

Sensible attitude, however, most younger girls delude themselves unless the truth is right there in front of them. Which means, I can tell a girl I'm seeing other people, and she's thinking, 'Ah, he's just saying that. How he could he possibly want to see anyone other than me? I'll just leave my scrunchie on his shifter that way next time I'm in his car, I'll have one on hand.'

The really sad part is they think they are being clever.... yup! no one would see through THAT... I'll just accidently leave something behind...

[Rapier_wit]

RIT: Lasso, nets, snares,...anything else? Oh wait, this gives me a great idea for a picture....

Fencergrl: The sad thing is, they don't just do that to the guys either. They'll do it to their friends if they think they're not paying enough attention to them.

[achilleus]

So sex topics and territory-marking aside, how does one snag a worthy equal?

RW,

You can't force somebody to see what a wonderful, unique person you are. Either someone appreciates you for who you are or they don't.

A lasting relationship isn't about 'snagging' somebody it's about being lucky enough to run into this 'worthy equal'.

[RITFencing]

RIT: Lasso, nets, snares,...anything else? Oh wait, this gives me a great idea for a picture....

Do go on.

Fencergrl: The sad thing is, they don't just do that to the guys either. They'll do it to their friends if they think they're not paying enough attention to them.

There is something to be said for the direct approach in relationships (romantic or otherwise,) especially where problems are concerned.

[Fencergrl]

So sex topics and territory-marking aside, how does one snag a worthy equal?

You are a teen... you will spend a large portion of your life in a long term relationship. Don't rush to get there. Spend time in a number of short term relationships, figure out what type of person you want to spend time with. Don't decide on who you want to commit to for at least another 10 years.

[latenight]

You are a teen... you will spend a large portion of your life in a long term relationship. Don't rush to get there. Spend time in a number of short term relationships, figure out what type of person you want to spend time with. Don't decide on who you want to commit to for at least another 10 years.

or longer! That having been said, I prefer a book of short stories to a longish novel......

[RITFencing]

or longer! That having been said, I prefer a book of short stories to a longish novel......

I just rent the movie. Quick and easy, and you bring it back when you're done!