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latenight · 04-27-2005, 05:52 PM

So I haven't started a thread for awhile.....

What are your thoughts about Christians and Non-Christians dating?

What say you?

keith · 04-27-2005, 05:57 PM

stone them?

latenight · 04-27-2005, 05:58 PM

You have no idea how funny that is..........but seriously

RebelFencer · 04-27-2005, 05:58 PM

*shrugs* If they don't have a problem with it why should anyone else?

KShan5[PrFC] · 04-27-2005, 06:09 PM

I don't understand why this is a question....like....I can't see how there can be any interest in the fact that two people hae different religous beliefs and why that would change your view of their relationship.

latenight · 04-27-2005, 06:12 PM

Kshan,

It doesnt change mine.........at all. But it seems to have become an issue for me so I'm looking for input.

keith · 04-27-2005, 06:19 PM

seriously, well it depends on who has the problem.

their parents, your parents, you (raising christian children), them (raising little heathens) etc etc.

If it is parental then it is solvable on the basis of people I know who have managed inter faith/culture relationships. If it is about you as a couple and how you manage life in the future then I strongly suggest discussing all possible permutations (which will probably result in polite goodbyes).

esskreemr · 04-27-2005, 06:22 PM

Well, since they are going to Hell, they could use the company

I've actually dated an atheist, a Muslim, and two Catholics. I hope my dad can forgive me for dating the Catholics

My family accepted them and treated them very well, even after I broke up with them...

RebelFencer · 04-27-2005, 06:23 PM

How are Catholics not christians?

keith · 04-27-2005, 06:24 PM

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Originally Posted by RebelFencer

How are Catholics not christians?

ask an orangeman.

IDOLATORS!!!!!!

Moonitic · 04-27-2005, 07:46 PM

I was Christian. Hubby was not. We married. He became Christian (because he WANTED to). End of story.

It's none of my business, or anyone else's, who dates whom. If you want to date a spoon, you can go right ahead. Just make that spoon happy, or I'll hunt you down & do very bad things to you.

howtobrew · 04-27-2005, 07:49 PM

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Originally Posted by latenight

So I haven't started a thread for awhile.....

What are your thoughts about Christians and Non-Christians dating?

What say you?

What do you want to know? I married a non-Judeo-Christian-Islam type person.
My parents commented that she was a wonderful person, but that we wouldn't have a very "spiritual" marriage. Well, that's true. I kind of miss going to Christmas and Easter services as a family, but other than that, I can't say that there is anything missing.

Frankly you have to decide whether you are dating with intent to marry or just dating. Marriage is a combination of two people, so you need to understand with that other person what the issues might be. If religion is going to be an issue for You, then you need to be up front with yourself and not date, or at least not over-commit to someone that is not going to measure up to your standards at the end of the day.
Hope this helps,
HtB

D+F+P=Hadouken! · 04-27-2005, 08:09 PM

While I'd be open to dating someone of a different faith, I really enjoy dating someone of the same faith. It brings us closer, I guess.

Coup de Grace · 04-27-2005, 09:40 PM

For Christians, the foundation of the answers to life's questions should come from what is written in the Scriptures.

Paul wrote in 2nd Corinthians "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers".

I think the guidance is we can, and should, have friends and companions from many backgrounds and beliefs. But for the Christian, use moderation in the level of non-Christian companionship so that the Spirit's light remains bright within you.

Iwant2bafencer · 04-27-2005, 10:05 PM

(I just have to say, Coup, that's a sweet ava)

Soldier · 04-27-2005, 10:56 PM

Well said, Coup; I'll echo it. Scripturally, Christians are called to marry other Christians, and not non-Christians. It makes perfect sense to me, too.

Generally, I think, when two people get married they become much more alike - including spiritually. So, usually either the non-Christian will become Christian (as in Moonitic's case), or the Christian's faith will fade - and I think the latter is the more frequent case with interfaith marriages.

Add to that the idea of kids - if there's any intention of raising them Christian (which I think is something that Christians should do), it's going to be near impossible if one parent isn't Christian.

Now, an extension of that. In my personal opinion (my own experience here, not a moral or scriptural issue), I think that dating somebody you wouldn't consider marrying is a really bad idea - it's basically just setting yourself up for a lot of pain later, and/or ending up marrying somebody you maybe shouldn't have.

mrbiggs · 04-27-2005, 10:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Soldier

Add to that the idea of kids - if there's any intention of raising them Christian (which I think is something that Christians should do), it's going to be near impossible if one parent isn't Christian.

Quite wrong. I was raised Christian, albeit very liberally, and my father is a very strict atheist. It's extremely possible, and often done. It is, of course, easier if both parents are Christian, because then church is more of a family time, but it's far from impossible.

dbell1 · 04-27-2005, 11:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Soldier

In my personal opinion (my own experience here, not a moral or scriptural issue), I think that dating somebody you wouldn't consider marrying is a really bad idea - it's basically just setting yourself up for a lot of pain later, and/or ending up marrying somebody you maybe shouldn't have.

I think I get what your saying- but I think the whole reason for "dating" involves finding who and what you're looking for from a person- how would you know if they're the one before you start dating them? life's about taking chances; they may be calculated, but there's still the element of risk- that's why it's fun

Soldier · 04-27-2005, 11:03 PM

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Originally Posted by mrbiggs

Quite wrong. I was raised Christian, albeit very liberally, and my father is a very strict atheist. It's extremely possible, and often done. It is, of course, easier if both parents are Christian, because then church is more of a family time, but it's far from impossible.

I suppose we'll have to agree to disagree here, since I doubt there's any statistics to be cited. And even if we did, I'm sure we'd spend the remainder of the thread pointing out just how flawed and biased each other's studies were.

In any case, in my experience I've seen that it is much more difficult to raise Christian children with just one Christian parent.

Soldier · 04-27-2005, 11:06 PM

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Originally Posted by dbell1

I think I get what your saying- but I think the whole reason for "dating" involves finding who and what you're looking for from a person- how would you know if they're the one before you start dating them? life's about taking chances; they may be calculated, but there's still the element of risk- that's why it's fun

Well, if you're not going to marry a Christian, then you already know that person's not The One. Unless you're saying that dating them would help you learn more about yourself, to apply to later relationships - in which case I can see that, but just wouldn't care to do it myself.