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[Faggot the Hutt]

F aggot and keith, you're out of line. Soldier came here for anonymous advice, and to get it off his chest. He's a good man to be dealing with it, and it's pretty obvious he's in a hell of a situation, so get off his back.

You and Rogue are too young to understand. Just shut up and stay out of things about which you know nothing. Anyway, I'm through here, it's in the admin's hands now.

[Westley]

Hate to say it guys, but he's right. Let it go. Soldier if you need help, consult a PROFESSIONAL. You need it as much as she does. Now let it go and let Gav close it.

[Moonitic]

Eh? While many of you would like to think that I do things with the forethought of a chimp, I consulted a lawyer before I created my site and he agrees that it's clearly satire for which I cannot be held liable. But, I guess you're talking about Moreau. E-mail him and see what he has to says about it. Maybe he'll want to kill me, but I doubt it.

Anyway, as I've stated on my site, if anyone has a personal problem with it, they can e-mail me and I will discuss the issue with my lawyer. I'm very serious about complying with the law, and if you think I've done something illegal, please let me know. To date, I've had no complaints about any of my site content, so please think out any pending legal issue very carefully before you test my patience.

Oh, you're just upset that I pointed out how poorly your book is selling (if at all) in the other thread that closed before you could post a response. Okay, my psychotic ren-freak, you win. I do anything for attention, and I'm sooo immature.

Actually, if you took the time to do the research before running your mouth (or in this case, fingers) you'd have learned two things: 1. My book has been out of print since 2001. It had BETTER not be selling well, or the publisher & I will be having a little legal chat of our own. They breached the contract in April of 2001 & the rights have since reverted back to me. 2. As for the review that was posted, it was proven that someone with a personal beef against me wrote it in order to tarnish my reputation. I wasn't going to post a response to you, because those who actually know me know the truth. But hey, people might as well know, so that if the book IS selling again, they can inform me.

Oh yeah, this "psychotic ren-freak" got paid -well- for being such. I was happy to do a job that I loved, with talented people that I care deeply about. Not many others can say that about their own employment.

Thanks for the laugh. Truly priceless.

Soldier, hopefully this situation of yours comes to a good resolution. Sorry about the thread hijacking. That dirty little business is over now.

[mrbiggs]

Moonitic, ignore f aggot. This is Soldier's thread, and it's not the time or place for this.

[Sarah]

Soldier, by looking for help so you can help her, you're doing the only thing that you can. My mom and I deal with similar things regularily as she has a Psych Major. Don't do anything rash (though.. from what you've said, you haven't) and tread lightly. I wish you the best of luck and I wish her to find solace and safety as soon as she can. I can only imagine what she's going through, I myself have never been raped, but I've been verbally assaulted. Poor dear... Good luck, you truly are a good man.

[Louweasel]

Sorry if this has been suggested before (I haven't had chance toread the entire thread - my 'puter is playing up), but how about doing some web and phone book research and giving her the numbers and urls of any crisis centre, helpline or drop-in facility you can find, One may not have helped, but others may have a different approach.
There is a charity here (called Refuge?) that offers accommodation for women who have left violent partners - whilst this isn't quite the thing in this case as it isn't her husband abusing her, a similar US charity may also offer comfidential counselling or a drop-in service.

And for what it's worth, do what you think is right. I have always had the impression of you as a good man and I for one am sure your motives and actions are honorable. Besides, it's all anyone can do.

Also, don't take too much upon yourself. Obviously it is good that you want to help, but remember that you cannot be totally responsible for other people; this is not your fault. Especially in cases of this kind, the victim has not only to make their own decision about seeking help, but take action about it as well. You can't make her do anything until she decides to do it herself.

[Louweasel]

PS Less tolerantly, what the HELL is her husband thinking of?! "doesn't want to hear it/can't take it"??? Sounds rather selfish to me - I'm sure she doesn't want to think about it either but she's got no choice! He should be the first one to support her.
But there's nothing you can do about that, it's his problem.

[Gav]

Interim closure of thread. I have some experience in dealing with similair issues. I will post fuller explanation later in the day. In brief, publicy discussing sensitive issues such as this can do more harm than good. Soldier, If this person were to come across this posting then you are running the risk of causing more harm than good. This is a matter that needs the involvement of the correct social authorities.

[Gav]

I've had some experience of domestic violence. The victim of such an offence does need to make the decision to help themselves. You cannot intervene on their behalf nor can you force them to contact the police. At best, in your current situation you can act as a sympathetic ear. I advise caution. Listen and be sympathetic but do not get emotionally involved [tricky]. Offer constructive advice to this person. Advise her to contact the authorities and seek refuge in a proper womens hostel for sufferers of domestic violence. Although she is unlikely to read our comments here, by posting here you have opened yourself to inadvertantly breaching your duty of trust/confidentiality to this woman.. Doing so could be catastrophic to her welfare. I would rather avoid this and for that reason the thread has been closed.