Nice guy or bad boy

[D+F+P=Hadouken!]

Regretful edit!

[prototoast]

How many of these threads do you need to start?

[Army Fencer]

Somebody sounds desparate.

[Squall_Leonhart]

What about the bad boy that's a nice guy?

[pammie003]

Nice guys all the way. I want someone I can talk to about things that matter to me, not someone who's just around for some fun. Bad boys don't usually strike me as the long-term, serious relationship type.

But, Squall, to answer your question, if the bad boy is a nice guy, then he still falls under the nice guy category in my opinion.

[D+F+P=Hadouken!]

I need to start as many of these damn thread until I get a definite answer and/or a girlfriend. Cmon, its hard being 14 and never been kissed before, most kids get their first kiss at 11! Its ****!ng hard to stand being a teenager without someone who loves you....

[Army Fencer]

I wouldn't worry too much about the other kids. Some people don't even get their first kiss until they get married...

[Strytllr]

*nods to armyfencer*

and are just as well off for it too, sometimes.

It doesn't matter what any girl here tells you, because most everyone is looking for something unique. And it doesn't matter if you latch onto something, unless you completely change your entire persona, it'll only be a facade, and most every woman I know gets annoyed with fakes after a short time...

The real question is whether you want to find somebody meaningful in your life or if you just want something to touch/kiss/parade around as yours. If you want the first, quit pushing and be yourself. You will eventually meet a girl who appreciates that.

If it's the second you're looking for... ... I have no advice, because I think that's a deplorable thing to look for.

[D+F+P=Hadouken!]

Yeah well, I dont wanna be one of them.

[Masterurethane]

Hey Ryu!

Don't worry about it, I didn't kiss anybody until I was 16, and it was someone that I liked and cared about, and still do.

Don't change to get girls, it won't work out in the longrun.

Now here I am as an 18 year old, and now, not having kissed all that many people is something to be proud of.

I've had 2 serious girlfriends, and I am currently with a girl who I've been with for over a year, and it is wonderul.

I'm a nice guy by the way.

[prototoast]

Originally posted by D+F+P=Hadouken!
Cmon, its hard being 14 and never been kissed before, most kids get their first kiss at 11! Its ****!ng hard to stand being a teenager without someone who loves you....

Well, I'm 18 and counting and I don't mind. Also, I assume you have people that love you--your parents.

[laughingduelist]

I need to start as many of these damn thread until I get a definite answer

It isn't that simple, all the questions you have asked are a matter of personal opinion. Just as you might have different tastes in women than other men, women all have different tastes in men. It seems to me that you are trying too hard, if you have to think about getting involved with a person this much, you will likely screw everything up through lack of confidence. Chill out. You have your entire life in front of you.

[D+F+P=Hadouken!]

Yeah well, thats what I told myself last year, and my life just seems to go by faster than I want it to. I try to just stop and smell the roses, but there are none, just the bitter cold of the blade. I fence to make the pain more bearable.

[Soldier]

Originally posted by D+F+P=Hadouken!
I need to start as many of these damn thread until I get a definite answer and/or a girlfriend. Cmon, its hard being 14 and never been kissed before, most kids get their first kiss at 11! Its ****!ng hard to stand being a teenager without someone who loves you....

I was a junior and high school. Settle down, man.

[Hurriranger]

13. i got my first kiss + ******* at the same time.


happy now soldier?

[Soldier]

See, that's what we in the military refer to as "need-to-know" information.

We don't need to know.

[MHS Fencer]

Mm... 14 and wise in the way of the worlds... I was too... or at least I thought so. I suppose I still do, so take this as my personal take on the situation, although i've found it to be shared by other whom I know. As a caveat I'm 19, so I definitely don't speak with a lifetime of experience, but I've been through that stage.

Nobody has the answers, but pretty much everybody goes through similar **** err, stuff. Speaking as somebody who's been lucky enough to see other parts of the world, and people put in extraordinary situations, a love life at 14 is about as important as the toenail on your little toe. It would be nice to have one, it seems like everybody else has ones, but it doesn't really matter whether it's there or not, even though you might feel bad about not having it. (Sorry for the weirdness of the comparison, it's nearly 3am).

If you look at life like you NEED to do something, well, you'll always fixate on what you don't have. Life only rushes by if you spend it escaping from it (which might seem like a good idea at the time). There are plenty of people who are around you who can fill in emotionally (friends, or even, and this will seem like sacrilege to you, relatives like parents).

If you're worried about the physicality of it... don't... it's really not worth comprimising any principles you might have, no matter how much you think you want to (unless you become a nihilist, but that's just begging for a lack of fulfillment).

Good luck with finding fulfillment, but it definitely doesn't automatically come with a girlfriend.

-Ian

[Grey]

I would advise on being passive and looking for what you really want instead of looking for kisses. Take a step back and look at what you're missing out in life. I've never kissed a girl and I'm 17 this coming november. What you're thinking that is the "norm" about being kissed, is that you're heavily influenced by peer pressure and illusionised by people who are attention seekers.

[Hurriranger]

this is a fencing forum.... see a trend?

jks, mate, check ur pm.

[D+F+P=Hadouken!]

How did you manage to pull that one off, hurriranger? whats ya secret boy?