"Being bad at something is no reason to give it up." -Alf

Being a coach I of course want my fencers to do well, to perform actions correctly, to win.

But more importantly however, and prior to any of this I want them to enjoy the sport. Most fencers I teach come from a very sedentary lifestyle, so getting them to wield a blade helps to disguise the fact they are getting good exercise, learning a technical skill and maybe even learning to think about what another person is thinking. I hate it when someone quits because they don't get results. I of course work to make them better, more precise but enjoyment of fencing must come before or with success, of you only play the game because you like to succeed you will have a hard time looking at yourself in the mirror when you fail.

I remember when I started, I liked to succeed. To beat others at the game. I thought I was the best anywhere. Then I went to a big tournament and got killed, I thought everything I did was worthless. There were fencers I couldn't even hit no matter what I tried. So instead of giving it up I started deconstructing the game. Instead of playing a very physical game I started using more of a mental one, touches are much more satisfying when you outsmart your opponent than when you muscle them.

I guess my point is, try to find something you enjoy (a hobby) and do it. Who cares if you lose DE's 15-3. Do you enjoy competing at tournaments? Then do it. Do you like doing Origami because you find it relaxing but no one can tell what you made? Do it anyway. You don't have to be the best and if you are good for you, the key is enjoyment.